Over the years, I have experienced my share of pain and disappointments. That pain can come from a variety of places and situations. It could be when you failed an exam or you couldn’t find a job or the love of your life just dumped you. You start to get pain in your body, it may appear as a migraine or feeling run down but somehow your body starts to hurt in ways you never imagined.
When either the mental or physical pain gets too big to ignore, what do you do?
I am able to relate to how tough it can be when you are trying to achieve #studygreatness or #careergreatness because for every success I have had there has been ten’s of painful experiences before it.
The pain can be crippling and can even last for days, weeks, months or even years. It really starts to affect your confidence which in turn affects your ability to find the motivation to keep going.
It may go something like this if you are a student….
The assignment you submitted was given a poor grade which results in your teachers and parents giving you a hard time which probably isn’t even close to the hard time you have been giving yourself for being such a loser. You try your hardest the next time but the worry keeps you up at nights and you are no longer sleeping well. You’re tired all the time, so you start drinking energy drinks. Then the headaches start at first, it’s once a week but now it’s every other day.
Alternatively if your a young working adult…
It’s when you can’t find a job. You get your CV looking good and send it off to lots of companies feeling optimistic that you will get hired soon. Days and weeks or months go by and you have had a few interviews but never get past that first stage. You start staying up late at nights sometimes, until the early hours of the morning so of course, it’s lunchtime before you wake the next day. You start noticing pain in your back and your skin gets constant breakouts.
You get the point ….
Whether it’s in your studies or career, the pain you feel is real and because your energy level and confidence takes a hit, it starts to bring up past hurt from things that are nothing to do with the present.
You ask why me? Is it not fair? Why do shit things always happen to me?
Here’s what I learnt and discovered on how to take that pain and use it as a life lesson to become fitter stronger and healthier. What is a psychological pain, will ultimately manifest itself biologically and so we have to learn to solve it on both levels.
I’m going to break it down into 3 simple tips.
– Do you feel it’s your time to move on from your pain?
– Are your dream goals worth the pain?
– Do you want to learn and grow?
Let me share with you the 3 tips to transform your study or career pain into #studygreatness or #careergreatness
“ We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment” – Jim Rohn.
Honour yourself by NOT pretending everything is fine. If you find yourself feeling lost, confused, upset, angry recognise it.
I’m not saying for one second you act out these emotions, ie; You are angry because you don’t get into the university of your choice or you get fired from a job so you use your anger to physically hurt a person.
What I’m saying is all these emotions are normal and you’re only human. You have to know pain to understand happiness.
- Write down your pain in a journal or device, it will help you organise your thoughts.
- Review your notes regularly so you start to see patterns and triggers.
- Acknowledge and appreciate the pain but don’t allow it to run and ruin your life.
Every successful person I have met, regardless of age, profession, gender, race or nationality all have this in common and that is they surround themselves with a tribe that supports them to become the best version of themselves. The mega-successful people go one step further by having mentors, coaches and career lifestyle specialists who guide them and support them.
My advice is to find someone who is an expert or have knowledge about the subject you need help with because as much as, your friends & family may or may not want you to succeed with your study or career dilemma they may end up giving you bad advice thus making your pain worse.
If for example, you need help with improving your CV speak to an HR or recruiter or career lifestyle specialist who can ensure you get the best and most updated information.
If you are experiencing a low mood which has lasted for sometime seek professional medical advice. There is no shame in needing help.
Tip No 3 Practice TRE – Tension/Trauma Release Exercise.
Dr David Berceli created TRE as a simple series of exercises to help the body release deep muscular patterns of stress. Watch this video to learn how you can use this technique to return your body back to a state of balance. By using this technique you will benefit from less worry, gain more energy and greater emotional resilience.
If you want to take it one step further and deepen your learning experience check out the guys over at the crash course, Emotion, Stress and Health. They have a ton of videos on study skills and personal development.
Let the pain you feel be your turning point because when life is teaching us a lesson and we don’t learn and grow from it, that pain will return and repeat itself until we do. It’s unrealistic to expect life to be smooth sailing and to never encounter pain and disappointment.
The key here is to teach ourselves the techniques to cope and process the pain to make you fitter stronger and healthier.
I’m never excited by the idea of painful life lessons, however, I accept that the pain is here to guide me and you on what we need to do for ourselves.
We all slip up from time to time and yet we all have the potential to learn and grow from these experiences.
Now that you have the 3 steps to help you deal with the pain are you ready to take action?
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