I came across a VIDEO not too long ago, and it hit me that self-doubt is a problem we all struggle with.
Rhonda’s Dictionary definition of self-doubt says, “That lack of confidence in the vastness of one’s own creativity, one’s ability, once brilliance, once strength, one’s courage, one’s personality and one badassness”
Self-doubt is the voice you hear when you are unsure of a certain step you are going to take in life, it is that persuasive voice that holds you back from seizing up your opportunities.
It is something that makes moving towards what you want harder. Self-doubt is another characteristic we all have and it is not necessarily something bad. Sometimes, self-doubt helps you to recognise a half-baked or bad idea. But mostly it can hold you back in your life.
So, where does it come from?
It comes from an internal sense of unworthiness where, YOU tell yourself you are not worth it or from external sources, such as parents or friends who tell you, you are not good enough. Media can play a part too. Showing us images of what we are supposed to look like and what success is suppose to be. It is also a contributing factor in affecting our self-esteem.
On some level, we can all relate to Rhonda’s story. What I take from this video is that no matter if you’re a student trying to get the grades to take you to the next chapter in your journey or you are a young professional climbing the career ladder, self-doubt is the monster that stops you from moving towards your dream life. This only happens when you give it the power to control your life.
You have a big exam coming up and self-doubt says “ Hey you are never going to get into college don’t bother. Go out partying instead “
When you are about to do an internship or go for a job interview but you convince yourself you won’t cope or be good enough so you don’t bother.
How can you get around it and how can you overcome those times of self-doubt so that you can move forward?
Look you will never 100% get rid of self-doubt, It’s a part of you, however, here’s what successful people who achieve their dreams do.
Are you ready to learn what the No1 Habit is?
Sucker punch self doubt!
Ask yourself, have I ever achieved anything from listening to my self-doubt? If the answer is NO.
Then why continue to trust it?
If self-doubt is stopping you from doing the things you dream of and is preventing you from your greatness it’s time to get real.
Get real by reminding yourself of how well things have gone many times before. List your accomplishment. Write them on individual post-it notes and store in a jar.
Do this weekly, so that you build up your protection against self-doubt.
See, self-doubt wants you to dismiss your accomplishment so that you stay stuck.
This is where you sucker punch self-doubt by creating your “I’m awesome jar“
Self-doubt likes to lurk in the dark corners of your mind where there is darkness. When you shine the light of FACTS self-doubt disappears.
By creating your list and adding your accomplishments on a weekly basis, what you are doing is disrupting this thought pattern and giving it no oxygen to breathe.
From time to time we all need help it’s why all successful people have coaches mentors and support network of experts.
When things are too much Talk to someone.
Sometimes all you need is a little reassurance that you are on track or just that you need some guidance to help you back on track.
Bring yourself out from darkness and let someone turn the light on. Speaking to someone can give you the extra boost of optimism you need.
Let me and my team be your guiding light in creating your vision, sign up for my free career clinic. This quick 15-minute session can help remove both self-doubting thoughts and help you achieve your dream study and career goals.
You have to know one thing about self-doubt that is you can choose! You can choose to listen to it or not.
If you give it the power to tell you that you can’t achieve something guess what you won’t!
If you tell yourself you can then yes, you got it and you will too….
So which one are you going to choose?
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Thank you so much for reading and make sure to give this a go and you might get closer to your dream life than you think.
Till next time,
You got this!